"Termination Meeting"

How do I set the proper tone for a termination meeting? Likewise, the employee that I am going to be terminating has formed a pretty good professional relationship with a few of the managers, however the exact opposite with me. As the owner, is it right to ask that no one rights referrals for them?

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Termination meetings should always be conducted with extreme professionalism, only stating the facts and leaving all emotion at the door (negative or positive). You don't want to open yourself up to a lawsuit by misleading a terminated employee. Since you don't have the best working relationship with this employee, it may be a good idea to have a neutral 3rd party or your lawyer/legal team sit in as a witness. As for writing recommendations, I'm not sure. I've never been in a situation where an owner/upper management specifically told me to not write a recommendation for someone. My gut reaction is that you wouldn't have that much control over what someone does on their personal time. I'd be curious to hear a more expert opinion on this one.

Posted on Aug 2, 2010
by mdbuwalda - 0 Votes - Flag this post

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Thanks. Having a 3rd Party representative is a great idea. With the recommendations, I'm still at a loss. Has anyone been in this situation?

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That is interesting - I have never seen an employer ask their employees to refrain from writing a recommendation letter but I have seen an employer ask that no employee give a telephone reference for an employee - meaning if a prospective future employer calls an employee, at work, for a reference on the termed employee, they must forward the call to HR. But, if you do that, I would make that a policy for all reference calls. Outside of that, I can't see how you can prevent an employee from writing a personal recommendation for that employee on their own time. In addition, I know that employees sometimes provide the termed employee with his/her cell phone or home phone number and tell the termed employee that he can use them as a personal reference as long as the prospective employer calls them at lunch (on their cell) or at home in the evenings. Unfortunately,I really don't think there is any way you can stop that from happening.

Posted on Aug 4, 2010
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Great point. I guess I will have to get over it. It is a tough situation to be in.

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